“I love you,” is universal. Sometimes though, a freshly mopped kitchen without a dish in sight means “I love you” or the sweatshirt you saw at the mall, but didn’t buy waiting on the bed means “I love you.” Sometimes, it’s easy to see these unspoken signals, but when partners are speaking two different love languages, the message isn’t always clear.

The holidays are barreling towards us, and the gift shopping panic is hovering in the distance. This year, we’re ditching bundles of boxes and opting for envelopes with the promises of something greater: experience gifts.